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Susan Scheid's avatar

Loved all of this—and particularly this: “Or, in the words of my mother, you won’t end up with less rice in your bowl by putting down your pride.”

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Zed Zha, MD (she/her)'s avatar

My mother is so poignant 🤣

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Wendy Martin's avatar

So many doctors I’ve encountered are jerks. Listening needs to be taught in medical school

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Zed Zha, MD (she/her)'s avatar

We all come in pretty wholesome. #MedEd can really train that out of ya

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Deb Vitkova's avatar

Thank you for all that you do💜

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Theresa Nicholson's avatar

Thank you for understanding that patients are not always responsible for poor outcomes of surgical procedures. We’re not the ones with the scalpels and suture kits, and there are many factors that undermine our ability to heal well. No one goes into surgery thinking “I hope this fails”.

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Steve O’Cally's avatar

It is a very familiar story. If the medical school recruiting process doesn’t make you a toxic liar, just give it time. In training, pimping and throat-cutting are the rules of the road.

My best teachers were always my patients. I will share my story of the Man with the Tooth Abcess whom I won’t forget.

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Zed Zha, MD (she/her)'s avatar

Pimping is fine but maybe not humiliating lol

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Mick Skolnick, MD's avatar

Being a self-reflective physician can be a very humbling experience, if we allow it to be. It is such a great privilege that we're able to be present at people's birth, and death, and witness their suffering in-between. We must honor that privilege by not being jerks, at least not when we're interacting with our patients.

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Kells's avatar

I wish any of my doctors were like you

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ADV's avatar

Lovely!

And all doctors should keep in mind that patients with connective tissue diagnosis, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, are exceptionally poor healers of any type of wound.

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Zed Zha, MD (she/her)'s avatar

Totally agree! Originally I wrote “as a woman in medicine I have been non-apologized to so many times, I wasn’t going to do it to another woman.” But then I deleted it and changed it to what it is now because I won’t do it do anyone anymore!!

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